Eharmony dating advice forum
You enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. However there is one problem: his dating profile is still active.If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.In some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly.I’ve had several readers write me they argued with the man they were dating to ask if I thought they had made the right choice.Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.You’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising.You decided to meet and on your first date things go great.
I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.Still, these are areas you will need him to define.Moving Towards an Exclusive Relationship Assuming the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, I would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction.Where does he see this relationship going, exactly?
When my profile was still up I did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago.