Advice on dating friends
Your date might remind you of your time constraint (“But I thought you needed to be home at 8…”). People who are dating online actively will appreciate your planning for a bad date and like the fact that you are saying to them “this is a good date”.
If you would rather not let them in on your planning for the worst-date-scenario, just say that you’d prefer to cancel your previous plans and spend your evening with them.
By this point you have talked back and forth twice and can measure how well you are getting along.
You will be able to judge the situation better as you communicate: sometimes you’ll get a date on your first email, other times you may realize a few weeks of communication would be best.
If you really hit it off on the phone (for example, did you talk for two hours without even realizing it? Regardless of the success of the first phone call, I still think the first date should come rapidly so don’t wait too long to move from phone conversations to a real meeting. Hint or specifically state that you can only be out until a certain time.
After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.
I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.
In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.
A grown woman (or man if the lady is asking) can decide in a few weeks if she would like to meet you – someone looking for a pen pal should do so somewhere else.
Your time is valuable and should be used to communicate with people truly interested in meeting you.
Other times, people are just reluctant to meet you because they are still trying to decide if they like you.